Use our quick quiz to reflect on whether you are experiencing domestic abuse. Simply read each statement, think about whether it applies to your partner’s behaviour in your relationship, and then answer YES or NO. If you don’t have children, just skip those questions. Read the results at the end of the quiz.

Does your partner…

  1. Often insult you, shout at you, or humiliate you?   Yes / No
  2. Control your money, what you wear, where you go?   Yes / No
  3. Stop you from seeing family or friends?   Yes / No
  4. Threaten to kill himself or hurt you and the children if you leave?   Yes / No
  5. Tell you that if you leave the relationship, you won’t be able to see your children?   Yes / No
  6. Threaten or hurt your pets?   Yes / No
  7. Force you to have sex when you don’t want to?   Yes / No
  8. Blame you for his abuse and say it’s your fault?   Yes / No
  9. Push you, shove you, choke you, punch you, hit you?   Yes / No
  10. Threaten you with comments such as “the law always protects the male”; “police will not be on your side if you aren’t a resident or citizen”; “When you leave the house in Australia you need to be accompanied by a male”.   Yes / No
  11. Accuse you of cheating and act like you’re his possession?   Yes / No
  12. Threaten you with a weapon or threaten to kill you?   Yes / No
  13. If you are separated, do they continue to harass you or try to contact you?   Yes / No

If you’ve answered YES to any one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. No-one deserves to put up with any of these behaviours.

Relationships are not supposed to make you feel scared or bad about yourself. Many women stay because they hope the abuse will end; in most cases it won’t. Non-physical abuse is a warning sign that often signals serious danger.

Even if it doesn’t seem like it now, you can have a happy relationship that makes you feel loved and secure.

If you think you are in an abusive relationship and want some help, contact Bonnie’s on 02 9729 0939.

We will listen to your concerns. Our service is free and confidential.

If you are in danger right now, call 000 and get assistance from the police.

If you are not in immediate danger but are planning to leave, look at our safety guidelines.